What It Means to Go To Princeton
Well, Reunions is coming and I guess I'm getting a bit reflective. I was talking to Nicole tonight, and the topic of what it means to be a Princeton student or alum. From time to time, I have thought about it, but I think this is the first time that I have finally begun to see the whole full aspect of the meaning of attending Princeton.
The first part about what it means to go to Princeton is the work. I'm not going to lie. Princeton is hard. If academic work were mountain climbing, Princeton would be like having to scale Mt. Everest with a large monkey on your back. I know some people think that where they went to college was tough. I'm not saying it was easy, but it wasn't this. Princeton is a swift kick to the crotch every day. With spiked boots. It's not fun.
At the same time, people love it here. There is a love for this university the likes of which I have never seen before. Now, I'm from Ohio, and I've worked at the University of Michigan. These are places where school pride is huge, and it still doesn't compare to what I've seen here in this tiny plot of land in New Jersey. To understand, people often use alumnai giving as a way of showing love for a school. It makes sense, if you love a place, why not give them money to keep it going. Princeton, gets more money from alumnai than anyone else. 67% of alumnai love this place so much, they give back.
The second major part is Tradition. I use a capital T there because Tradition is a serious thing at this university. The P-Rade. Reunions. Beer Jackets. Cane Spree. There are traditions as old as most universities. Talk about what you want, but things like the Naked Mile do not compare to Reunions, where people come back to dress up in obnoxious cloths for the sake of tradition. I want to see a tradition that has students so entrenched, they won't exit a gate. Half of the things we do here are about tradition. Often, we do things only because they have been done due to tradition.
The next major part is Family. Everyone who attends Princeton becomes part of a family. The Princeton Family. This family, often referred to as the old boys network, is a serious thing. All of the connections, all of the little advantages that come up, it's all part of keeping things in the family. Whether it be jobs, oppertunities, or even people to date; the idea of keeping things in Princeton is a major thing. Is it exclusive, yes. Is it fair to those not here, yes. But it's part of Princeton. Elitism is just part of the Princeton game. It is an elite university. It doesn't mean that everyone else sucks (well, Harvard, Yale and Penn do), but it means that we are very much about being associated with Princeton.
The final part is having to deal with what it means to go to Princeton. THe thing about going to Princeton is that it is very alienating. Much of one's time away from Princeton is spent trying to, not trying to cover up going to Princeton, but trying to get people to make a huge fuss about it. I've had people go, “Ooooh, you go to Princeton” so many times, I've lost track of them all. To be honest, most of the time, I hope people don't find out. I'm not ashamed to go here, I just don't want to have to deal with people who don't get it.
The thing about it is, most people never do get what it means to go here. 95% of the people who understand what it means to go here, went here. I often don't even try to explain it to people anymore. When I try to discuss reunions, or how tough things are, I usually just go, “you'd have to go here to understand.” And that's really alienating. You can't talk about the experience, because no one would really get it.
I think this is why Reunions and the various Alumnai Associations are so important. You crave being around other Princetonians so you can interact with people who have this understanding. It's a matter of seeing that you weren't the only person who had to go through hell and back. It's about knowing that every person in the P-Rade is a tough SOB, because they graduated from there. It's about knowing that they're family.
I think the hardest thing about this is knowing that this particular post is not doing Princeton justice. It's more complictated than I've made it sound. There are subtle nuances that I'm not able to capture. I also know that this probably just sounds like an elitist post. I guess I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't. *shrugs*

